Have you turned your back on golf? I was right there with you. When Kevin first started playing golf, I was NOT on board. I thought it would turn him into a stuffy, boring lame-o with no time for me. But. I was so wrong!! Here are some of the lies I believed about golf until I really gave it a try.
Lie #1 – Golf Is Boring
This is probably the biggest golf lie I believed until I really started playing a little over a year ago. If golf was on TV, I would fall asleep almost immediately. I had zero interest in knowing the difference between a driver and a pitching wedge. I thought 4 hours out on a course would be torture. I WAS SO WRONG! Everything about golf is fun. From riding around in a golf cart with my favorite person to spending a weekday evening on the driving range trying to figure out how to position my body just right so that I can hit that little white ball consistently, to meeting all kinds of different people and learning about the world through their eyes. Golf gives you something fun and light-hearted to work on while you get to know yourself or others. There is something deeply enriching about connections made while working side by side to get better at something.
Lie #2 – Golf Is For Boys
This is another big lie I clung to for awhile. I thought that because golf has a bit of a ‘no girls allowed’ stigma that I would get to the course and be boo’d right out the door. Or that the other golfers would make Kevin feel uncomfortable for bringing me along. But Kevin seemed genuinely interested in having me with him so I gave it a shot and I haven’t had one problem with sexism on the golf course. Or at the driving range. I have never once been made to feel uncomfortable for being a woman or for not being a great golfer. It’s been quite the opposite actually. Most of the men we get paired up with seem at least ok with me being there but more often, they seem pleased. I can’t count the number of men I’ve met on the course that verbalize how they wish their wife would play golf with them or that they plan to have their daughters out there as soon as they’re old enough. I’ve played courses all over the Carolinas – from the mountains to the coast – almost every weekend for over a year now. Not once have I had a negative experience with any person we’ve met out there.
The sad thing is, we’ve only been paired up with other women once… in probably 50 rounds (we don’t always get paired up – a lot of times Kevin and I get to play by ourselves). Seeing a woman on the golf course is not especially common and I suppose this adds to the problem. But golf IS for girls too. It’s such a fun way to spend time with people and to work on your physical and mental control. And they want us out there! And even if there are guys who don’t want us out there … its 2020 and they are the ones that are stuck in the past and need to get with the times. They no longer have the freedom to tell us where we can and can’t go. We are lucky enough to live in a time and place that is largely anti-discrimination and that is powerful. At this time and in this country, we as women are the only ones keeping us from anywhere we want to be. So. Read Kevin’s article – Your First Trip to the Driving Range, and meet us out there!
Lie #3 – Golf Isn’t Really a Sport
YES. IT. IS. The Cambridge Dictionary defines sport as “a game, competition, or similar activity, done for enjoyment or as a job, that takes physical effort and skill and is played or done by following particular rules.” Golf definitely fits in here. While you may not be running laps or knocking other people out, golf requires a lot of practice, precise control of your body, stamina, and a strong mind. To get the most out of your swing, you need strong legs, an engaged core, flexibility, and precision. You need to know all the rules. You need to be able to overcome the frustration of a bad shot or a bad hole so you can move forward and do better on the next one. You need the stamina to make it through 18 holes and (depending on your skill level) 60-150 swings. And while competition in golf is mostly with yourself, you do need to be able to play well with others and support your playing partners through their ups and downs. Also, if you’re still not convinced that golf is athletic enough, leave the cart at the pro shop, put your bag on your back, and walk 18 holes. I bet you meet your move goal that day.
Lie #4 – Golf is a Waste of Time/It Takes Too Long
18 holes of golf generally takes about 4 hours. That may sound like a big chunk of time but … How do you spend time with your loved ones? Do you gather in a living room or at a bar and visit – hoping to organically come up with valuable conversation? Do you go shopping or out to dinner as a way to catch up with your friends? How much time do you spend doing this? Sure, four hours can seem like a long time. But it can be 4 very solid relationship building hours. It gives you enough time to really settle in together or with yourself. It gives you something to focus on and work through with yourself or that other person. It gives you 18 chances to show yourself and your friend or loved one that you can make a really great shot or recover from a really bad one. It gives you time to chat about life and listen to music and enjoy nature and maybe drink a couple of beers. 4 hours is the perfect amount of time to settle in, work through any awkwardness, enjoy each other’s conversation and company, shake hands and head in your own separate ways.
What if you just don’t have 4 hours? Play 9. Or go to your local driving range. Or head to the closest TopGolf (Half price gameplay on Tuesdays!). Or set up a little chipping net in your living room and play with foam balls. Golf doesn’t have to take 4 hours to be enjoyed and you don’t have to look at a 4 hour round as a waste of time. It is definitely not a waste of time if you are out there enjoying yourself and quality time with nature and/or a friend.
Lie # 5 – Golf is Expensive
Ok, I know, I know – it certainly can be! But it doesn’t have to be. There are plenty of ways to enjoy this wonderful game on a budget. Let’s take a closer look at some of the expenses associated with golf and ways to cut the cost.
Clubs can be quite expensive if you buy them new but there are so many different places to find used equipment. If you’re just starting out and have no clubs, you can find everything you need to start playing at Play It Again Sports! You can even return the equipment within a week if you decide the game just isn’t for you! (Although, I wouldn’t recommend this because you can’t really know whether or not you like something until you give it at least a couple of tries). I’ve bought clubs for less than $10 there! If that even sounds a little steep for your budget, check out your local Goodwill – head to a nice part of town and you’re bound to find clubs that can at least get you started.
Another option would be to see if any family, friends, or coworkers have some clubs they wouldn’t mind loaning you. Chances are, they aren’t using them as often as they’d like anyway and would be happy to see them in play.
If you aren’t a big fan of used equipment or you want to start out with a complete set, there are complete starter bags brand new for under $100.
If you’re new to golf … or even if you’ve been playing for a while, you are bound to lose lots of balls. Don’t start out with the most expensive ball out there thinking it will give you some sort of advantage. Until you really learn to swing the club correctly and are able to replicate a good swing, the ball isn’t really going to matter that much. A tour-level ball may actually cause more trouble than if you start out with something a little less advanced. I like to buy used balls from a local golf shop. You get to pick out different brands and colors and really experiment with what you like … for about $5.00 a dozen. When I’m feeling a little better about my game, I’ll splurge and pick up a pack of Top Flite Matte Lady Golf Balls or Maxfli Softfli Golf Balls (before your cringe at the prices at these links … they’re both for 2 dozen balls). Kevin loves the VICE brand and their prices are much more reasonable than some of the older more well-known brands.
Men – If you’re playing fair weather golf, all you need is a pair of shorts, a belt, a collared shirt, a hat, and a pair of shoes. If you really don’t already have all of those items in your closet, head to Golf Galaxy, Dicks, Target, Walmart, or even Goodwill. Keep the colors simple and you can get away with wearing them as often as you want (as long as you wash them and keep the wrinkles out).
Ladies – 9/10 times, I’m out there in yoga pants and a pullover. During the summer its shorts or a skirt and a tank top. Our shirts don’t even need a collar! As long as you are comfortable and take a little pride in your outfit, your options are pretty much endless. If you don’t already have athletic wear that you feel comfortable and confident in, Golf Galaxy has some great sales right now (I always have a lot of luck with the Puma/Slazenger brands. Target and Walmart always have cute athletic wear. Again, Goodwill is always a good option. Find one located near a nice golf club or upscale part of town and you’re bound to find some awesome outfits for just a few dollars!
There are tons of golf shoe options and you can almost always find them on sale. I have bought about 6 pairs over the last 1.5 years and all but 1 of them were on a really great sale. My latest steal was only $25 and I’ve been eyeing them for months! I even found a pair of Skechers Golf shoes that normally go for over $100 on a special last pair clearance for $10! My point here is, you don’t need to spend $130 on a pair of golf shoes right out of the gate or even ever if you don’t want to. There are plenty of good, supportive, comfortable, and stylish golf shoes available. My advice would be to head to your nearest Dick’s/Golf Galaxy and check out their clearance section. If you don’t find any there, at least try some different options on so you know what to look for online. If you aren’t much of a sales shopper or are ok with spending full price because you know a good pair of shoes is a worthy investment – here are a few of our favorites. (We own all of these and they were all on sale when we bought them … except for the pair on the bottom left … I bought them full price and have no regrets … check out my review of them here – adidas Pureboost XG 2).
Some courses’ greens fees are outrageous! Not really if you think of all the money they put in to maintaining the course but – we don’t all have that kind of money to throw at a round of golf. The good news is, there are plenty of courses that are much more reasonable. You can also find Hot Deals through apps like GolfNow, SupremeGolf, Teeoff.com, Gofzing, or Golfadvisor (you save up to 80% and get the chance to play some really nice courses for a fraction of their normal cost). Kevin has found a lot of great coupons through Google’s Honey extension. We played a nice course last weekend that normally goes for about $48 for $15!! If you can’t find a Hot Deal, you can probably get on to a local par 3 for $10-$20. Or you can always just go hit a bucket of balls at the driving range for $5. My point is that you don’t need a country club membership and Range Rover to enjoy the wonderful world of golf.
So what’s holding you back now? Check out Kevin’s Beginner Series, go grab some clubs, and start swinging. You’ll see what you’ve been missing!
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