Hello Fairways and Cabbage family! Happy Valentine’s day! We have so much love for you as golfers and as humans and in the spirit of V-Day, we’d like to share the top 5 things we love about golf and how they help us love life and each other a little better.
- Game Improvement. We love that golf gives us something fun to work hard at. Practicing and playing and studying and discussing golf promotes mindfulness and engagement. We get to work on ourselves as individuals which helps to wake us up and show up better. When we’re each showing up so completely, our relationship flourishes. Plus, golf parallels life in so many ways. This opens the door to so many productive and fulfilling conversations. For example:
- Golf builds confidence. The harder you work at something, the better you get, the more your confidence increases. And an increase in confidence in one area of your life is bound to increase your confidence in other areas of your life. Plus, confidence is sexy. Watching each other gain confidence in golf increases our desire for each other.
- Perseverance. Golf – like life – requires perseverance. You will not make it through 18 holes if you cannot learn to move past a tough lie or bad contact. You have got to learn to manage your emotions and coach yourself back into a positive place. Perseverance is inspiring. It’s one of those things that, when witnessed, produces tears and goosebumps and a whole new level of respect for the person exhibiting the trait. Watching him persevere makes me want to persevere and vice versa. New found respect for each other waters and fertilizes our love.
- Golf promotes good judgment. Judgment is the ability to make a decision or form an opinion; a decision reached after consideration. It is so important to build this skill through experience. In golf, you learn which club to use for which distance and lie. You learn that driver off the tee isn’t always best and sometimes laying up is smarter than going for the green but other times you have to go for it. Practicing this skill, side by side, helps us see each other work and grow. He shares some of his wisdom with me and he also learns when to back off and let me learn it myself. We’ve learned that we don’t really want to over-indulge the night before a round because we want to be at our best on the course. We’ve learned how to communicate our desired input for and from each other. Good judgment has a snowball effect on us. The more good choices we make, the more good choices we want to make. And vice versa.
- Nature. Golf gets us out in nature. We LOVE being outside. Spending time in nature (including very well maintained nature) is life-giving. From the sunshine to the rain to the snow to the extremely hot to the extremely cold, being outside makes us happy. It’s one of those things like eating right, exercising, and getting enough sleep that really wakes up your soul. You need your soul awake to be a good soul-mate!
- Play. Couples that play together stay together. Ok so that is maybe a little corny but for real! Life can be so serious sometimes! Stress relief is not a luxury, it is a necessity. Our bodies were not designed to stay stressed for long periods of time, but when we don’t make time to play – work, bills, family drama and all the other stresses of life WILL fill up our schedules. Netflix and chill may feel like the best way to unwind together but all it really does is press pause on our stress and – depending on what we watch – can really end up adding to dissatisfaction and a negative outlook on the world around us. Playing golf is just our favorite way to relieve stress together. We also like to play disc golf, board games, card games, climb walls, do puzzles, and so much more. We experience the most stress and conflict when we don’t make time for play and the most love and connection when we do.
- Socialization. Golf allows plenty of opportunities to meet new people on and offline. Being part of a community like the golf community is just another piece of joy that we get to add to our pot of joy. Connection is a basic human need (I’m not making that up! See – Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs) and the more we are able to connect with people, the better. Especially when those people are also committed to living a truly fulfilling life. We learn from each other. We share our stories. Kevin and I get to watch each other connect with other people and learn more about each other through this type of observation. We’ve gotten paired up so many times and not one of them has been bad. No matter how anxious I am on that first tee box, I’m always a little sad to say goodbye to our new friends at the end of the round. Meeting new people through golf has really done so much for my faith in humanity.
- Quality Time. Being outside on a beautiful day with my favorite person, playing our favorite game = the highest quality of time. I feel so much peace and joy and connection on these days. It’s not always rainbows and sunshine though. Sometimes the weather isn’t great and sometimes we can’t seem to speak the same language. These days are a little tougher but the quality of our time together is still high. Kevin and I have 2 very different personalities and that does not come without conflict. However, a round of golf is long enough to experience conflict, work through it, and come out the other side a little stronger. Having golf to focus on while dealing with these higher conflict days, helps us maintain a little perspective. It helps us reset, refocus, and persevere.
And these are just a few of our favorite things about golf!
For all those non-golfers, have we convinced you to give it a try yet? If so, make sure to check out Kevin’s beginner series!
And for all of our golfers, what are some of your favorite things about golf? What are you all doing to celebrate love today?
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